What is a "Relationship Check-In"?

It may sound intuitive but the nature of a relationship check-in isn't so obvious. Simply put -- a Relationship Check-In is structured time when couples assess the status of the relationship, across 5 core areas. Our method incorporates proven techniques for behavioral change and building healthy habits in relationships. We provide open-ended prompts, ranking questions and couples coaching tips, creating better communication and increased satisfaction in relationships.

Why is a "Relationship Check-In" important?

Studies have shown that doing regular check-ins in a relationship can contribute to greater relationship satisfaction, enhance intimacy and diffuse the charge around conflicts that exists (as compared to groups that did not participate in check-ins. Our process for checking-in does more than that. Drawing from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Neurolinguistic Programming techniques, the Happy Partners Project approach creates connection across 5 different categories.

Do I need the card deck to do a Check-In?

Yes. We’ve created a proprietary process for doing an effective check-in. The tools and tactics included throughout the deck help partners improve communication, coach healthy habits and increase emotional intelligence. Our process is also very solution and action-oriented so partners have productive takeaways and activities. This is unique to Happy Partners Project.

What's the benefit of getting the Check-In Bundle?

Great question! Behavioral Change science shows that tracking progress and writing down goals and commitments are the best ways to achieve long-term success in habit creation. Our Relationship Check-In Chronicles models couples therapy and deepens the integration from regular Relationship Check-Ins. The 12-Week journal also incorporates a weekly relationship lesson and tracks progress over time. It provides space for couples to capture commitments and outcomes from each Check-In. The result is an accelerated pathway to the best relationship of your life!

How long does a Check-In last?

Typically, the first few take an hour and a half. Over time, and with regular practice, check-ins take an hour, every other, or every, week. This means you’re giving between 2 and 4 hours of uninterrupted time a month to your relationship health.

How do I introduce a "Relationship Check-In" to my partner?

A relationship check in is simple to get going! Refer to our blog post on specific ways to broach the conversation with your partner. Schedule an hour of uninterrupted time either weekly or every other week, read the “Rules of Engagement” before your first one and the “Check-In Commitments” to start each session (both included in your deck).

Does your relationship have to be in trouble to benefit from the check-in deck?

No. Our process is intended to bring emotional intelligence to couples in all kinds of states -- from the blissed out couple to the couple in trouble. It also helps train partners on good practices that keep the waves of relationship gentle as opposed to intense peaks and valleys.

Take our quiz to find out what state your relationship is in.

What are some topics that are covered in the deck? Why are they important?

The Happy Partners Project Relationship Check-In(TM) deck takes couples through five categories -- Gratitude, Re-friending, Connection (Sex + Intimacy), Future-Gazing, and Conflict Resolution.

Each of the categories are designed to bring partners closer, diffuse negative energy, and remind partners what they love about each other, the relationship and what they are building towards.

It also incorporates Non-Violent Communication as well as therapeutic best practices for healthy relationships.

I’m having trouble with my check-ins, is there coaching available?

Yes, we offer a few options with Happy Partners Project founder Jocelyn Johnson. A 30 minute session with Jocelyn is particularly helpful if partners are wanting a neutral third party to help keep a check-in on track. Partners can do this on a regular or as-needed. She also offers regular relationship coaching for couples by the hour.

I need assistance on how to use my deck, who can I talk to?

For additional support initiating a check-in with your partner or to discuss any challenges or concerns about a check-in with your partner, book a 15 min. session with Happy Partners Project founder Jocelyn Johnson.

Where can I find your shipping and returns / refunds policy?

You can find our Shipping Policy here, Refunds and Returns here. For damaged products and returns, please email customerhappiness@happypartnersproject.com with "REFUND REQUEST" or "DAMAGED ITEM" in your subject line. If you purchased Route for $.98 you can file a claim directly with Route to have your lost items refunded to you.

My package is lost, what do I do?

If you purchased Route Insurance with your order, we will happily ship you another package. If not, we recommend filing a lost package report with the shipping carrier to see if they can recover your package. Happy Partners Project does not assume responsibility for lost or stolen packages nor for addresses input incorrectly during check-out.

I need to make a change to my order!

Put in the wrong address? Accidentally added duplicate products? No problem! You can make these changes in one of a few ways! You can create an account and your order details will be included there with the option to Edit your order. This option is also included on your confirmation page and in the first Order Confirmation email you receive as well.